The future looks scary, but that doesn’t mean you should keep holding on to your past. What you need to see is that all you’ve got is the present, and this is all you will ever have. The past that you’re holding on to – the past you are thinking about right now – you left a long time ago. Nothing takes time if you decide soon. Stop fooling yourself. Be present in life emotionally, psychologically along with your physical presence. It’s all about a journey, which can’t be covered being alone.

Without freedom from the past, there is no freedom at all, because the mind is trapped in unnecessary thoughts, futile views and opinions. The mind is never new. Its innocence is being impaired. The continuation of this destruction process will ultimately lead to not only self-injury but to the ones who are around you, with you – look around once again, you might have lost them for no reason.

Sometimes it takes three months, sometimes one day. Some say one year to get over your past. None of these hold any truth.

The moment you decide to kill it, finish it, pack it and throw it away from your life, you are actually over it indelibly. It’s your mind to decide. It’s you. Nobody’s ever going to plan your life; it’s always you.

Get out of the trauma soon and if you had made the decision to live your life anew, then make it happen. Don’t wait for the new opportunities and people to be lost from your life yet again. This way, you are making the same mistakes in life – you are doing nothing new but destroying yourself for the one whom you left and left for some reason.

Go back to your thought process. Think why you decided to part your ways. Why you are in the situation you are in right now. Think. Clear your minds. Stop being stuck in life and destroying others’ lives. Make up your mind as to what you want to do and take your steps forward accordingly.

Resisting change, resisting people, resisting attachments, resisting life – these are a number of things you are resisting without realizing that this is only making your life worse but nothing else. You have to disconnect from the past in order to reconnect with yourself, new people and opportunities around you.

We tend to spend more time and space in the virtual world than in the real one and this is not aiding you in anything but inching you towards the cliff. If this persists, you are bound to fall off and never come back.

Be at peace within yourself for once. Forgive, but don’t forget. Either leave it completely or remain stuck with it forever. Don’t keep it on the hook. See what damage you might be doing around you – although unintended. But watch for your words and actions. Realize or not – it is desperately needed. It is. Before you invite a permanent damage yet again either for yourself or someone else currently in your life and is lost forevermore.
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