Ask the Sex Doc: Make limpy a stiffy
Dear Sex Doc;
Okay, this is quite embarrassing for me, but it is killing me so I have to get it off my chest. Lately I've been having trouble keeping my dick hard when I have sex with my girlfriend. I never have problems when I masturbate. My dick is always rock hard. What the hell is happening to me? Do I need to run out and get ViagraTM? I'm only 22. Please tell me that my dick will work again.
Penis Problems @ UBCO
Dear Penis Problems @ UBCO;
It's hard for me to know exactly what your sexual concern is without more information, but I reckon the problem in your pants is a direct result of what is happening between your ears.
You might be thinking that your dick is your main sex organ, but your brain holds far more power over your sexuality than your dink.
You could be suffering from what is known as performance anxiety. This problem happens when you become anxious about performing sexually. You might be worried that your stick is too short or that your left ball is twice the size of the right one. If your sex-negative thoughts persist, there is no way your tool will be up for the job.
Your dick works perfectly when you're all alone because your mind isn't wandering off worrying about that piece of toilet paper stuck in your ass.
And Penis Problems, I wouldn't suggest running off to the doctor to get that famous blue pill. I highly doubt it will solve your limp ways.
The only reason to use any of the PDE5 inhibitor pharmaceutical drugs like ViagraTM, LevitraTM, or CialisTM is if you have erectile disorder. Erectile Disorder (ED) is the persistent or recurrent inability to get or maintain an erection until the completion of sexual activity. Experts generally say that if you have difficulty more than 25 per cent of the time, then it is considered a problem.
ED is not as common as most people think. A large study by Laumann et al. (1999) found that 11 per cent of men suffer from ED.
Remember Penis Problems, all men experience erectile difficulties at some point in their life. I'm confident that if you relax, your limpy will become stiffy very soon. But if your penis problems persist, please see your family doctor or urologist for help.
Dear Sex Doc;
I keep having this recurring fantasy about seeing my girlfriend have sex with my best guy friend. It really turns me on and now I feel I want to experience this in real life. How do I bring up this fantasy with my girlfriend?
Peeping Tom @ BCIT
Dear Peeping Tom @ BCIT;
First of all, I wouldn't take this lightly. If you tell your girl you want to see her swap genital juices with your best bud, she might think you're wacked.
Besides thinking you're strange, she'll probably assume you want an open relationship or that you're really just into watching your buddy's tight-ass move up and down on her.
But Peeping Tom, if this fantasy is really important to you it is possible for you to bring this up with your gal. That being said, there are a few guidelines you should follow. It is important to have the discussion outside of the bedroom and not while you're playing hide-the-salami.
If you have open-lines of sexual communication in your relationship you could just tell your girlfriend your fantasy. Or, you could ask her, “what's something you would like to try sexually?” Then, you could tell her your fantasy.
In situations like this it is generally best to indirectly introduce the topic. Say something like, “Honey, I read an article last week about guys who get off watching their girlfriends have sex with another dude. How do you feel about that?”
She might tell you you're a sick f**k, or she might jump at the opportunity to wrap her legs around your dude friend's waist. But, have you truly considered how this will make you feel?
These types of sexual scenarios are generally fraught with insecurities and often don't go down in reality as well as they do in your mind. Your gal friend might be very enthusiastic about riding your buddy's pony. Do you think you can handle that?
Like I mentioned Peeping Tom, if this fantasy is so important to you that you would risk your relationship, then go ahead and tell her that you'd fancy seeing her dingle-dangle your friend.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
Okay, this is quite embarrassing for me, but it is killing me so I have to get it off my chest. Lately I've been having trouble keeping my dick hard when I have sex with my girlfriend. I never have problems when I masturbate. My dick is always rock hard. What the hell is happening to me? Do I need to run out and get ViagraTM? I'm only 22. Please tell me that my dick will work again.
Penis Problems @ UBCO
Dear Penis Problems @ UBCO;
It's hard for me to know exactly what your sexual concern is without more information, but I reckon the problem in your pants is a direct result of what is happening between your ears.
You might be thinking that your dick is your main sex organ, but your brain holds far more power over your sexuality than your dink.
You could be suffering from what is known as performance anxiety. This problem happens when you become anxious about performing sexually. You might be worried that your stick is too short or that your left ball is twice the size of the right one. If your sex-negative thoughts persist, there is no way your tool will be up for the job.
Your dick works perfectly when you're all alone because your mind isn't wandering off worrying about that piece of toilet paper stuck in your ass.
And Penis Problems, I wouldn't suggest running off to the doctor to get that famous blue pill. I highly doubt it will solve your limp ways.
The only reason to use any of the PDE5 inhibitor pharmaceutical drugs like ViagraTM, LevitraTM, or CialisTM is if you have erectile disorder. Erectile Disorder (ED) is the persistent or recurrent inability to get or maintain an erection until the completion of sexual activity. Experts generally say that if you have difficulty more than 25 per cent of the time, then it is considered a problem.
ED is not as common as most people think. A large study by Laumann et al. (1999) found that 11 per cent of men suffer from ED.
Remember Penis Problems, all men experience erectile difficulties at some point in their life. I'm confident that if you relax, your limpy will become stiffy very soon. But if your penis problems persist, please see your family doctor or urologist for help.
Dear Sex Doc;
I keep having this recurring fantasy about seeing my girlfriend have sex with my best guy friend. It really turns me on and now I feel I want to experience this in real life. How do I bring up this fantasy with my girlfriend?
Peeping Tom @ BCIT
Dear Peeping Tom @ BCIT;
First of all, I wouldn't take this lightly. If you tell your girl you want to see her swap genital juices with your best bud, she might think you're wacked.
Besides thinking you're strange, she'll probably assume you want an open relationship or that you're really just into watching your buddy's tight-ass move up and down on her.
But Peeping Tom, if this fantasy is really important to you it is possible for you to bring this up with your gal. That being said, there are a few guidelines you should follow. It is important to have the discussion outside of the bedroom and not while you're playing hide-the-salami.
If you have open-lines of sexual communication in your relationship you could just tell your girlfriend your fantasy. Or, you could ask her, “what's something you would like to try sexually?” Then, you could tell her your fantasy.
In situations like this it is generally best to indirectly introduce the topic. Say something like, “Honey, I read an article last week about guys who get off watching their girlfriends have sex with another dude. How do you feel about that?”
She might tell you you're a sick f**k, or she might jump at the opportunity to wrap her legs around your dude friend's waist. But, have you truly considered how this will make you feel?
These types of sexual scenarios are generally fraught with insecurities and often don't go down in reality as well as they do in your mind. Your gal friend might be very enthusiastic about riding your buddy's pony. Do you think you can handle that?
Like I mentioned Peeping Tom, if this fantasy is so important to you that you would risk your relationship, then go ahead and tell her that you'd fancy seeing her dingle-dangle your friend.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
