New Age Gentleman: You might be right, but you're an asshole
Hello dear readers!
I was talking with a friend of mine and he was relating a story to me. A story about bad mannerisms, one that served as an excellent example how someone who is totally right can suddenly be totally wrong in the blink of an eye.
My friend was at a pleasant restaurant with his girlfriend and there was a disturbance. Even though the disturbance was at a table near the back of the establishment, it was so loud it could've been right behind him.
A man had been waiting for his order for quite awhile and was so annoyed his behaviour quickly escalated from talking loudly, to belittling the waitresses who came near him, to almost shouting. He was right though — at first. No one should wait that long for his order but because of the method as my good friend very effectively put it, “He went from being instantly right, to instantly wrong.”
I, myself would like to salute all the waiters and waitresses. If there is one thing you all go through to make a buck, it's a lot of grief. It is stressful memorizing orders to get them right, putting up with screaming kids at times, and problematic customers and bosses with questionable logic or empty heads.
Professionalism is a great asset that can be used in ALL scenes both business and social. If the customer had handled things differently he probably would've gotten one heck of a discount on his food or even gotten it for free. Not to mention the credit of having acted like a true gentleman.
Many still have the attitude that being professional like that wouldn't change anything, and some use the excuse of “keeping it real.” In the first case yes, it does change things; it makes a world of difference and it does not go unnoticed as some may think. It may not show up on a resume, but acting in the appropriate manner sure holds a lot of sway when it comes to reference letters. When you keep it real, you may be doing that but keeping it real also reflects on your creditability. It's not butt kissing; butt kissing involves being a yes-man, it involves agreeing with everything and anything just for the sake of staying on someone's good side.
It is totally possible to be professional, argue with your teacher/boss/whatever, and show your side, show your opinion and not come off as a smart ass. They may actually enjoy it, as they are not always right either. They don't think of every single detail and if anything you're being a challenge to them and keeping them on their toes.
That is all I have to say about that.
If you have any points at all you believe I may be wrong on, or I may be right on or if you would just like to make a comment, lemme know. As a teacher of mine puts it, Questions, comments, rude remarks? Contact me at Mistah_J@yahoo.com
Editorial opinions or comments expressed in this online edition of Interrobang newspaper reflect the views of the writer and are not those of the Interrobang or the Fanshawe Student Union. The Interrobang is published weekly by the Fanshawe Student Union at 1001 Fanshawe College Blvd., P.O. Box 7005, London, Ontario, N5Y 5R6 and distributed through the Fanshawe College community. Letters to the editor are welcome. All letters are subject to editing and should be emailed. All letters must be accompanied by contact information. Letters can also be submitted online by clicking here.
I was talking with a friend of mine and he was relating a story to me. A story about bad mannerisms, one that served as an excellent example how someone who is totally right can suddenly be totally wrong in the blink of an eye.
My friend was at a pleasant restaurant with his girlfriend and there was a disturbance. Even though the disturbance was at a table near the back of the establishment, it was so loud it could've been right behind him.
A man had been waiting for his order for quite awhile and was so annoyed his behaviour quickly escalated from talking loudly, to belittling the waitresses who came near him, to almost shouting. He was right though — at first. No one should wait that long for his order but because of the method as my good friend very effectively put it, “He went from being instantly right, to instantly wrong.”
I, myself would like to salute all the waiters and waitresses. If there is one thing you all go through to make a buck, it's a lot of grief. It is stressful memorizing orders to get them right, putting up with screaming kids at times, and problematic customers and bosses with questionable logic or empty heads.
Professionalism is a great asset that can be used in ALL scenes both business and social. If the customer had handled things differently he probably would've gotten one heck of a discount on his food or even gotten it for free. Not to mention the credit of having acted like a true gentleman.
Many still have the attitude that being professional like that wouldn't change anything, and some use the excuse of “keeping it real.” In the first case yes, it does change things; it makes a world of difference and it does not go unnoticed as some may think. It may not show up on a resume, but acting in the appropriate manner sure holds a lot of sway when it comes to reference letters. When you keep it real, you may be doing that but keeping it real also reflects on your creditability. It's not butt kissing; butt kissing involves being a yes-man, it involves agreeing with everything and anything just for the sake of staying on someone's good side.
It is totally possible to be professional, argue with your teacher/boss/whatever, and show your side, show your opinion and not come off as a smart ass. They may actually enjoy it, as they are not always right either. They don't think of every single detail and if anything you're being a challenge to them and keeping them on their toes.
That is all I have to say about that.
If you have any points at all you believe I may be wrong on, or I may be right on or if you would just like to make a comment, lemme know. As a teacher of mine puts it, Questions, comments, rude remarks? Contact me at Mistah_J@yahoo.com
Editorial opinions or comments expressed in this online edition of Interrobang newspaper reflect the views of the writer and are not those of the Interrobang or the Fanshawe Student Union. The Interrobang is published weekly by the Fanshawe Student Union at 1001 Fanshawe College Blvd., P.O. Box 7005, London, Ontario, N5Y 5R6 and distributed through the Fanshawe College community. Letters to the editor are welcome. All letters are subject to editing and should be emailed. All letters must be accompanied by contact information. Letters can also be submitted online by clicking here.
