One of the sexiest things a woman can be is understated.

Not knowing the power of one's beauty and sexiness usually makes a woman more attractive. Women who think they're sexy usually overdo it. Let's face it, who wants a woman who thinks she's extremely sexy?

It's a mildly confusing thing to grasp, however, it does make sense. Knowing you're sexy and thinking you're sexy are two completely different things, and then there are those who don't even know they are.

So let me explain how this concept works.

A woman who doesn't know she's sexy is usually of the quiet variety; she's slightly shy and dresses modestly. Whenever I think of this woman I usually think of Zooey Deschanel from the film 500 Days of Summer — '50s-styled blouses with full flowy skirts. A feminine silhouette that doesn't overwhelm a look: a classic button- down, a skirt and a cinched waist, something so beautiful, classic and simple.

Then on the other hand there is the woman who knows she's sexy because in simplest terms — she is. She plays to her sex appeal without drawing too much attention to herself. Her sexy is understated, she knows how to dress herself, or at least pays the right people to dress her, and can make others feel drawn to her. One of my favourite examples of this type of sexy is Jennifer Aniston. Yes, Jennifer Aniston - too bad for Brad Pitt, John Mayer, Gerard Butler and the other men with whom things never worked out with, because Aniston is extremely sexy.

She takes care of her body and herself, she does what she feels is right for her. She doesn't wear too much makeup and instead she plays up her natural beauty, she doesn't fake or bake to get colour because she knows a glow is better than a tan. One of my favourite examples of Aniston's sexiness is her outfit from the 2010 Golden Globes. It was outstanding. She looked flawless with her hair slightly messy and her skin was bronzed, her eyes had a slight smokiness to them, which played up the dress. The slit in the dress showed off her gorgeous gams that looked toned and long. She also kept the focus on how she wore the clothes by not overdoing the jewellery. She successfully wore the clothes without having them wear her.

Last but definitely not least is the woman we all know. Trust me, you know exactly who I'm talking about. She's the woman with the over-dyed hair, the one who likes to think she's hot and looks to the approval of men for her style choices. If you ever do something for someone else, I guarantee it won't look as good as if you made the decision based on what you want.

When we decide what we want, we feel better about our choice — knowing that we were strong enough to raise our heads and say, “I don't know if I want that.” But this third type of woman hasn't yet come to that realization. She's still unaware that less is more.

So if you find yourself of the third woman variety do yourself a favour, dye your hair a natural colour, remove the extensions, take off the two-inch nails, pop those implants and step away from the tanning bed. Remember, less is more when it comes to true sexy.