Ever wonder why girls say they want a "nice guy" and then 10 minutes later, you see them with a jerk? Guys, you're not alone — even us girls don't always know why we do it.

I myself once dated a guy who treated me like a princess and then dumped him after a couple months. A few days later, I found myself back to chasing those bad boys and then complaining about them. To be honest, I can't tell you exactly why most girls tend to be guilty of the nice guy/bad boy dilemma, but I can attempt to shed some light on one of life's most unanswerable questions.

After talking to other girls about this, I have discovered many similarities of why girls tend to fall for the jerk. Warning: this might make you think women are more complicated than you already did.

In the simplest of terms, girls want it all.

Girls want a guy who treats them well, but at the same time doesn't try so hard. Always trying to make a girl happy doesn't really say much about your self-confidence in the relationship. When guys respond with lines like "I am happy with whatever makes you happy," sure it's sweet, but that is not a response that girls always want to hear. Maybe we want to see you take charge and show some testosterone. That's what a bad boy would do. What if we want to do something for you? Nice guys make it so hard sometimes, so we don't try and subconsciously end up taking advantage of their niceness. It should be a two-way street; we want to know that we can do things for you as well.

Girls want a guy who respects their independence but at the same time wants to spend time with them. Don't make your girlfriend feel guilty if she wants a night out with the girls. You need to let a person breathe. At the same time you need to show that you want to be with her as well. You can't always do everything together; you don't want to smother each other. This is usually where nice guys struggle the most. They think because they are in a relationship that they should be with each other all the time to prove that they care, but that's not true. We want to know that you want to be with us all the time, but we don't want to feel like we have to. Make sense?

We want a guy who has his own life. It's nice to have someone who wants to spend time with you, but he shouldn't have to give up his friends and his own life to do it. Nice guys tend to do this and this could put a lot of pressure on the relationship. Girls begin to think that they are your whole world, and some might find this scary, which causes them to run.

Girls want a guy that listens to them, but at the same time doesn't agree with everything they say. It's okay to agree with her if you feel the same way, but if you don't, say something. It's nice to date a guy who has an opinion. If you are always agreeing with us it becomes boring and predictable. If we are being ridiculous, you should really tell us. Even if it makes us mad at first, we will respect you more for it in the end.

The worst thing a guy can do is to try to change to please someone else. We like you for who you are, and if we don't, then you will find someone who does. Girls find it very unattractive when guys try to change who they are for them. It means you have no confidence in who you are. If I wanted a doormat, I would go to Walmart and purchase one.

It really just comes down to selfesteem. The reason we may fall for the bad boys is because they have this unbelievable confidence in themselves that draws us to them.

There is nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but when you don't have confidence in yourself or your relationship, how do you expect a girl to as well? Girls want a nice guy who is confident in himself, is that too much to ask for?