Love, Lust and Lies: Does the perfect guy really exist?

When we were younger watching Disney movies like Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs or Sleeping Beauty, we would imagine what our Prince Charming would be like: whether he was handsome with dark hair and dark eyes, or blonde with blue eyes; if he was tall or short, if he had muscles, if he was skinny or big and cuddly like a teddy bear.

As we grow up, we not only visualize what Prince Charming would look like, but the qualities that he would have as well. Some preferences include being a great listener, caring, loving, considerate, faithful, honest, trustworthy, intelligent, ambitious… I could go on forever.

Once we know what we want him to look like and be like, we think of the kind of career he would have — whether it's something that would make him very successful like a doctor, lawyer or a CEO, or something in the trades because we enjoy a man who can work with his hands.

As a woman, I hate to admit it, but we have extremely high standards that make it almost impossible for men to live up to. We created a perfect human being, but the problem with that is this is not Practical Magic and we can't cast a spell that creates the perfect guy. If we plan to spend our lives searching for this perfect person, we will be setting ourselves up for failure. So, does Mr. Perfect exist? Of course not, and if he did, he would be taken by now.

As women we might not get everything we want in a guy, but that doesn't mean we can't find a guy who comes pretty close. So I asked some girls what they thought were most important qualities for a guy to posses and here are some of the most popular answers:

Sense of Humour
Everyone wants a person who knows how to make them smile. You don't necessarily have to be great at telling jokes or a stand-up comedian to make someone laugh, either. It's because the person knows you, and knows exactly what to say to make you laugh, even if it's completely stupid.

Social
We want a guy who can get along with our friends and can be social at different functions. To be honest I am always afraid to bring guys that I am dating to meet my friends, because if they can't get along, it's kind of a dealbreaker for me.

Ambitious
As I've said in previous articles, girls want a guy who knows what he wants in life and goes after it. No girl wants to be with a deadbeat who is going nowhere in life, even though sometimes we end up with one, once or twice.

Good Listener
Women like when a man listens to them when they talk. Most women know that with most guys it's in one ear and out the other, but sometimes it's just about being there and letting them rant.

Honest/Trustworthy
No one likes a liar, and to have a person in your life that you can completely trust is a rare quality.

Good-Looking
Okay, so we want a guy that is good-looking; who wants to date someone they aren't attracted to? I know women always say it's the personality, but that's only half true; we want someone who looks good. The thing is, we don't all like the same type of guy, not everyone wants a muscle man, some of us want a teddy bear.

Even if he posseses all these qualities, women will always find something wrong with him. I mean, a guy can be amazing, but maybe he always forgets to put the toilet seat down, so he is being inconsiderate. Women are chasing a hopeless dream for Mr. Perfect, so it's time to give up on that fairytale. All you can do is find someone who is perfect for you, flaws and all.