Love Lola: Grasshead, extra pounds and parent students
Dear Lola,
I hope you can give me some advice on how to approach a ‘touchy' topic with my girlfriend. Over the holidays we indulged in junk food and both gained about five pounds. Since retuning to school, I've lost the weight, but she's gained a bit more. I know five pounds is small, but I'd rather say something now before it gets out of hand. Five pounds is easier to lose than 20, right? How do I approach this one?
Weight Watcher
Dear Watcher,
Hmmm, how do you approach this one? How about with a 10 foot pole and a getaway car sweetie? You're seriously considering approaching your girlfriend to discuss your concern over her weight? Oh honey, I don't know if you're brave or just stupid, but this could get dangerous.
First of all, commenting on a woman's weight is only okay when it comes from another woman. Best friends, mothers and close sisters are the only people in someone's life who could possibly attempt to approach a topic this delicate and even conceive of walking away in one piece.
You, my friend, are not qualified.
When she asks you if she looks fat, you say NO. When she asks if she looks good, you say YES. Got it? Until this girl becomes the literal elephant in the room and you reach the point where you are honestly concerned for her health and not just for yourself then you keep your little lips shut.
This poor girl does not need your pathetic attempts at tough love; she knows she's gained weight dummy! Trust me, the first time she tried to put on jeans fresh from the dryer, she knew. The first time she experienced skin-to-skin contact on her own stomach, she knew! This is not a game you want to play, so you need to reconsider your strategy.
Before your girl becomes too much to handle, just start creating exciting ways to burn calories in your dates. Activities like cross country skiing, tubing and of course, wild, hard, crazy sex will have those thunder thighs melting in no time.
Just please, don't tell her she's gained weight or the only Big Fat Loser here will be you.
Dear Lola,
I just found out that my little brother is smoking pot. He's only 15 and he only told me because he thought I would be “cool” with it, but I'm not at all. I don't want to tell on him, but I'm also worried he could get himself into serious trouble. What should I do?
Big Brother
Dear Brother,
There comes a time in every young man's life when he has to choose between being a cool guy or a good guy. This is that moment!
Do you maintain your little brother's admiration and adoration by helping him to hide his Rasta cap and grass stash from your mom and dad or do you protect the little guy by telling your parents what's going on and letting him know that what he's doing isn't safe?
I know, I know...you probably smoked pot in high school, right? Feeling a bit like a hypocrite? That's what being an adult feels like silly! Suddenly everything that you're thinking and feeling is the exact opposite of everything you thought and felt when you were a teenager. It can seriously mess you up.
You realize what your little brother is doing may be dangerous or at the very least stupid because you've been there yourself. Be aware, he will throw this in your face in front of your parents though so keep that in mind when planning your defense. He's also going to hate your guts for a few years, but it'll pass.
Do you want your brother's future to go up in smoke? Do you want him selling his video games for weed money at the local pawnshop? Do you want him burning brain cells and showing up to school high as a kite?
Sadly, you will not be earning cool points on this mission my friend. But it's the right thing to do.
Good Luck!
Dear Lola,
I'm sick of the special treatment so many of classmates receive because they have children. Students with kids get extensions on projects and their absence and tardiness are always excused. Just a few of the ‘perks' of having a kid! Not to mention, they're allowed to text in class and leave school for sick babies! It just seems unfair that these students are given free passes that the other students don't have. What do you think Lola?
Baby Bummer
Dear Bummer,
If there's one thing I hate its special treatment and favouritism, especially when it's being given to little helpless babies. It seems like these crying, stinking babies are everywhere you look, mocking you from their jogging strollers, flaunting their designer clothes and drooling at you with toothless grins! It's sickening.
When I was young, mothers knew enough to stay home and raise their children in private. The only class my mom ever attended was Tumble Tots and then she headed straight home to make dinner and iron my dad's shirts. Moms nowadays are totally out of control. They have jobs, they go to school, they workout and even scrapbook without a child in sight; it's ridiculous!
Parents who are returning to school while raising a family are just looking for trouble. Sure, we're in a recession and unemployment is at an all-time low, but who do these people think they are? The idea that these moms are looking for understanding and compassion from teachers and peers as they juggle education and family is a scandal!
I mean, how much harder can it be for a parent to be in school than it is for the rest of us? After making dinner and putting their kids to bed, I'm sure they're able to start their homework at 9 p.m., 10 p.m. at the latest? What's the big deal? So your kid's sick, how hard can it be to find a baby sitter?
I agree with you 100 per cent. If these “mature” students can't find a way to put their entire lives on hold and ignore the needs of their families and make school they're number one priority for the next three years then they just shouldn't be here.
Thanks for your letter.
Love Lola
Got a question? Email me at lolaletters@live.ca - All emails are confidential and your identity will be protected. If you're not comfortable sending me an email, just click on the Letters to Lola link on the left side menu to send me your question.
I hope you can give me some advice on how to approach a ‘touchy' topic with my girlfriend. Over the holidays we indulged in junk food and both gained about five pounds. Since retuning to school, I've lost the weight, but she's gained a bit more. I know five pounds is small, but I'd rather say something now before it gets out of hand. Five pounds is easier to lose than 20, right? How do I approach this one?
Weight Watcher
Dear Watcher,
Hmmm, how do you approach this one? How about with a 10 foot pole and a getaway car sweetie? You're seriously considering approaching your girlfriend to discuss your concern over her weight? Oh honey, I don't know if you're brave or just stupid, but this could get dangerous.
First of all, commenting on a woman's weight is only okay when it comes from another woman. Best friends, mothers and close sisters are the only people in someone's life who could possibly attempt to approach a topic this delicate and even conceive of walking away in one piece.
You, my friend, are not qualified.
When she asks you if she looks fat, you say NO. When she asks if she looks good, you say YES. Got it? Until this girl becomes the literal elephant in the room and you reach the point where you are honestly concerned for her health and not just for yourself then you keep your little lips shut.
This poor girl does not need your pathetic attempts at tough love; she knows she's gained weight dummy! Trust me, the first time she tried to put on jeans fresh from the dryer, she knew. The first time she experienced skin-to-skin contact on her own stomach, she knew! This is not a game you want to play, so you need to reconsider your strategy.
Before your girl becomes too much to handle, just start creating exciting ways to burn calories in your dates. Activities like cross country skiing, tubing and of course, wild, hard, crazy sex will have those thunder thighs melting in no time.
Just please, don't tell her she's gained weight or the only Big Fat Loser here will be you.
Dear Lola,
I just found out that my little brother is smoking pot. He's only 15 and he only told me because he thought I would be “cool” with it, but I'm not at all. I don't want to tell on him, but I'm also worried he could get himself into serious trouble. What should I do?
Big Brother
Dear Brother,
There comes a time in every young man's life when he has to choose between being a cool guy or a good guy. This is that moment!
Do you maintain your little brother's admiration and adoration by helping him to hide his Rasta cap and grass stash from your mom and dad or do you protect the little guy by telling your parents what's going on and letting him know that what he's doing isn't safe?
I know, I know...you probably smoked pot in high school, right? Feeling a bit like a hypocrite? That's what being an adult feels like silly! Suddenly everything that you're thinking and feeling is the exact opposite of everything you thought and felt when you were a teenager. It can seriously mess you up.
You realize what your little brother is doing may be dangerous or at the very least stupid because you've been there yourself. Be aware, he will throw this in your face in front of your parents though so keep that in mind when planning your defense. He's also going to hate your guts for a few years, but it'll pass.
Do you want your brother's future to go up in smoke? Do you want him selling his video games for weed money at the local pawnshop? Do you want him burning brain cells and showing up to school high as a kite?
Sadly, you will not be earning cool points on this mission my friend. But it's the right thing to do.
Good Luck!
Dear Lola,
I'm sick of the special treatment so many of classmates receive because they have children. Students with kids get extensions on projects and their absence and tardiness are always excused. Just a few of the ‘perks' of having a kid! Not to mention, they're allowed to text in class and leave school for sick babies! It just seems unfair that these students are given free passes that the other students don't have. What do you think Lola?
Baby Bummer
Dear Bummer,
If there's one thing I hate its special treatment and favouritism, especially when it's being given to little helpless babies. It seems like these crying, stinking babies are everywhere you look, mocking you from their jogging strollers, flaunting their designer clothes and drooling at you with toothless grins! It's sickening.
When I was young, mothers knew enough to stay home and raise their children in private. The only class my mom ever attended was Tumble Tots and then she headed straight home to make dinner and iron my dad's shirts. Moms nowadays are totally out of control. They have jobs, they go to school, they workout and even scrapbook without a child in sight; it's ridiculous!
Parents who are returning to school while raising a family are just looking for trouble. Sure, we're in a recession and unemployment is at an all-time low, but who do these people think they are? The idea that these moms are looking for understanding and compassion from teachers and peers as they juggle education and family is a scandal!
I mean, how much harder can it be for a parent to be in school than it is for the rest of us? After making dinner and putting their kids to bed, I'm sure they're able to start their homework at 9 p.m., 10 p.m. at the latest? What's the big deal? So your kid's sick, how hard can it be to find a baby sitter?
I agree with you 100 per cent. If these “mature” students can't find a way to put their entire lives on hold and ignore the needs of their families and make school they're number one priority for the next three years then they just shouldn't be here.
Thanks for your letter.
Love Lola
Got a question? Email me at lolaletters@live.ca - All emails are confidential and your identity will be protected. If you're not comfortable sending me an email, just click on the Letters to Lola link on the left side menu to send me your question.
