I've never dated anyone. It's a confession I hate making because people then think there is something wrong with me. Well, there isn't, thank you very much. I am constantly finding that being in fashion, it is hard to be attracted to a man who cannot dress himself. I'm not asking for an Elmer Olsen model who can undress me with his eyes, I'm just asking for someone who knows how to dress themselves stylishly and successfully. Every woman likes something different, but these are the things I have encountered on my journey and what should just become common sense.

Who are you?
This isn't a rule; this is something you just need to know. Flamboyantly gay men can outdress almost any straight man. I'm dead serious. Gay men, from my experience, always look so sexy — they dress, they coordinate and they pull it off without looking like they try too hard. I'm not sure why they all have this superpower, but they do. The reason why I think gay men are so exceptional at dressing themselves is because gay men have a task that straight men have never had: coming out of the closet. As a straight woman, I can only imagine what this is like. I feel as though it requires a great deal of self-discovery and realization of who you are. In this realization, I feel as though a sense of self emerges and you develop a style. Unless someone has to recognize who they are and what type of person they are, it's hard to develop a concrete style. So step one is figure out what type of person you are and what you like.

Back to basics
When in doubt, stick to an original look. Let me explain: women like dark jeans and a white t-shirt; we don't know why, but there is something sexy in simplicity. Sometimes the best outfit is something that you didn't think about. Most men try too hard in the wrong way: they over-think. You don't have to. The basics that YOU need include a pair of black jeans, dark wash jeans, an array of t-shirts (vnecks if you have chest hair) and some sexy shoes. We like when guys have some classic style. It says a lot about you, and also it's easy to pull off; you don't have to worry about colours, patterns and prints, you just need to make sure your clothes are clean.

Think like a woman
I know this rule is probably turning you off, but if you want to impress a woman, think like one. Women put so much effort into how they dress (well, most of the time). We match our jewelry or take fashion risks. We try new things in the hopes of discovering a good look for ourselves or something we like. Women pay attention to the little things. We'll notice if you smell good, if your pants are clean, etc. Women are attentive and we want to know that you put effort into the small stuff; it also says a lot about your personality. So take care of your appearance, it's sexy.

These are a few of the things I have noticed over the years. I could keep going, but I feel as though the rest are things we need to discover on our own. Fashion is meant to be played with, but there are also some ground rules that are reasonable and important to recognize. Go get your sexy on.