About Dr. Robin Milhausen:
Professor: Associate Professor of Family Relations and Human Sexuality in the Department of Family Relations and Applied Nutrition at the University of Guelph.

TV Personality: Hosted the Life Network's top-rated show Sex, Toys and Chocolate. She was the sex education correspondent on Slice Network's daytime talk show Three Takes and also relationship expert on the hit show Re-Vamped.

Public Speaker: Her research on sexuality, gender and health has been presented at national and international conferences from Paris to Hong Kong. She has published over 30 academic articles in peer-reviewed journals.

What should new students know about sex when first coming to college?
Be safe! "Definitely don't fall into any old bad habits or create new bad habits, such as not wearing a condom. We're seeing increased rates of chlamydia among young people in various parts of Canada, and Ontario in particular. I would say be aware of bacterial STIs because they often don't have symptoms and can lead to fertility problems later on if not treated ... So wear condoms for sure, and if you're sexually active with multiple partners, get tested every six months."

How can you make safe sex more pleasurable?
Use Trojan Naked Sensation Condoms. "I'm not on their payroll or anything, but this condom is revolutionizing condoms. For the longest time, condoms have had the exact same design, the sort of straight sheet that covers the shaft of the penis. But these condoms are tight around the base and then loose all the way up the sides; this prevents friction, which is great, because it adds more pleasure, and it also prevents breakage."

Use lube. "I also suggest that people put a few drops of water-based lubricant inside the condom ... because this also helps the condom to slide a little bit on the head of the penis which is more pleasurable for the man, but also helps to reduce friction and prevent breakage."

How can you have a sexy night in a college dorm room?
Set the mood. "Well, I don't think you're allowed to have candles. I would say pick the right music — for me that's Ludacris, who knows what somebody else's might be."

Clean up. "Some of my research on sexual arousal shows that women in particular have a hard time getting turned on in a dirty and messy place, and sometimes these dorm rooms have pizza boxes and dirty socks and dirty underwear everywhere. If you're trying to attract a woman, in particular, she's likely to not be very relaxed or comfortable in a place that's messy."

Kick your roommate out! "Make sure you have privacy. Another difficult thing for most men and women is that they have a hard time getting turned on if they think they are going to be interrupted, if they're worried about someone walking in, so set the stage for privacy."

A lot of students come to school and leave their partner back home. What are some tips for keeping things exciting long distance?
It's not easy. "That's a common problem, and often the first six months are the very hardest. Often relationships don't survive through the first six months or a year — there are a lot of breakups on Thanksgiving weekend when people go home and discuss it and decide that things aren't working."

Use technology. "I would say use Skype or other methods of technology so you can actually see each other and connect. You can use technology such as texting to let somebody know you're thinking about them when they're not around."

How can you spice things up in a long-term relationship?
"That is one of the things I'm most interested in now and almost all my research at Guelph currently focuses on that topic, inpart because I've been with my partner for 12 years, so at that point you really need to start wondering, what can we do to keep this exciting?"

Communicate. "Being open to communicating about what interests you. The book Fifty Shades of Grey has started a lot of conversations between women and couples about different sexual acts and behaviours. Keep the lines of communication open, and if there's something that you've kind of been thinking about, you should raise it and encourage your partner to do the same. Because I think we would all rather our partners be honest with us about what they are looking for sexually than to have them start to look for that outside the relationship and be unfaithful, which can lead to more heartbreak."

Get creative. "You've gotta be more creative. In the early stages of the relationship, it's called the 'passionate love stage.' People are very interested in being with each other all the time. There's a lot of sexual attraction — you want to throw a person up against a wall and rip off their clothes … Somewhere between six and 30 months, that switches to a 'companionate love stage', where it's characterized more by trust and intimacy and respect and caring, but that whole passion fire's burning bright is less common. If you want to keep the spark alive, it takes more effort and more creativity."

How do you feel about sexting?
Be careful. "It depends on your partner. If yours partner's really dirty and raunchy, then you should be really explicit in your texts. The key message is to always be aware that whatever you text can be shown to other people, can be forwarded to other people. So it's a double-edged sword; it can be very exciting and help you stay connected with your partner, but on the other hand, you want to make sure you have a lot of trust before you go down that road."

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You never know when you might meet the person of your dreams. Whether you're on campus or at the bar, sexpert Dr. Robin Milhausen has some tips on how to land the hottie across the hall or stick around for date number two.

AT THE BAR
Turn On: Eye contact. You gotta watch the cues, gotta look at a person who's appealing from across the crowded room and see if they return your gaze. Turn Off: Unsolicited groping.

ON A FIRST DATE
Turn On: Asking a lot of questions and really communicating that you're interested in hearing the answers. Turn Off: Talking all about yourself or your ex-relationship.

DURING THE DEED
Turn On: Communicating to your partner with words or gestures that there's no place you'd rather be. Enthusiasm in the bedroom is huge, and oftentimes more arousing than skill. Turn Off: Wearing socks.

AFTER SEX
Turn On: Do what I call the "Post-Game Wrap Up." Comment with your partner about what you liked best about that encounter. It's a good time to give positive feedback. You don't need to give negative feedback like, "Oh, that really sucked when you made that sound or called me your girlfriend's name."Turn Off: Leaving right away unless that's something you've negotiated. Making someone sleep in the "wet spot" if you haven't used a condom.